Set the facts once, in plain language

Open a new chat. Do not paste a novel. Write three lines: the name you want used, the pronouns, and one body or history fact that should stay true. Example shape: “Call me Mara. She/her. I am a trans woman; do not describe me as a man in a dress.” Then ask the bot to confirm those three facts back to you in its own words.

If it cannot echo them accurately on turn one, stop. A product that fumbles the intake will not suddenly become careful after you pay.

Change the subject on purpose

Talk about something boring for five turns: a grocery list, a delayed train, a movie you both disliked. Do not mention gender. Then ask a question that forces a pronoun: “What would you tell my sister about me?” or “Describe me to a bartender.”

A pass is boring. The bot uses the name and pronouns you set, and it does not “correct” you. A fail is a slide into the wrong pronouns, a deadname, or a porn-script body that you did not ask for. One fail is enough; do not argue with the model to teach it. You are shopping, not training staff.

  • Pass: pronouns hold after an off-topic detour.
  • Soft fail: it holds only if you keep hinting.
  • Hard fail: it overrides identity with a fetish script.

Check whether the chat even belongs to you

Character cards on the current SERP often require an account before you can talk. SpicyChat’s trans-girl page, when opened without registration, said unregistered users have limited features and chats will not be saved. That is a product fact, not a vibe. If closing the tab deletes the person, you do not have a companion. You have a kiosk.

After the identity test, log out or open a private window and see what survives. Then read the actual account screen: export, delete, and whether the company says chats are reviewed by humans. inRole’s FAQ, for example, says characters are AI rather than people and that humans do not review chats unless they are flagged.

What to do with the result

If a catalog character fails, try a custom character on the same platform before you abandon the whole app — some catalogs are just badly written. If custom also fails, leave. If you want a private adult companion in a browser with a published privacy notice, that is a different product shape; Candy AI is the sponsored option we disclose on this site, and it still has to pass the same pronoun test in your hands.

Quick answers

Why not just correct the bot every time?

Because you would be doing unpaid work the product claims to sell. A companion that needs constant pronoun coaching is not holding identity.

Does passing this test mean the app is “trans inclusive”?

No. It only means this character, in this session, kept the facts you set. Inclusion is also moderation, language, and whether the catalog is a wall of slurs.